“I pray to be like the ocean, with soft currents, maybe waves at times. More and more, I want the consistency rather than the highs and the lows.” — Drew Barrymore
A couple weeks ago, my family paid our annual visit to the Ocean. Being around the ocean is a healing trip for us all and we value this simple time together.
And, like I do all summer long, I woke up extra early each day to step outside. From our balcony we could see the ocean’s waves crashing on the shore despite the fog, wind and rain that we experienced.
On the first day, as I was sitting and journaling and drinking my coffee, my daughter yelled out, “I see a fox or a coyote!”
I didn’t see this mystery creature but she was pretty amazed.
A short while later, my other daughter and I walked out to the beach. It was foggy. A beautiful morning experiencing the beach and ocean in a way I hadn’t before. There weren’t any other people around so there was an eerie quiet on the beach. I was lost in a sea of presence watching birds, looking for shells, taking pictures of the foggy landscape.
And then …
“Mom! Mom! The fox. The fox. It sees me!” my daughter screams, running toward me.
Sure enough, the Beach Fox was there watching us in the distance as it stole a drink of water or snagged a few sand crabs — whatever Beach Foxes do at the beach.
It was exciting. And adventurous.
But that’s not the story I want to tell you about the Beach Fox.
The story I want to tell you is that every morning as I was journaling on the balcony, The Beach Fox strolled through. It crossed the street in front of our building, walked through the resort next door, walked down the sidewalk avoiding all people and made its way out to the beach to do its thing.
On our final morning, I waited. Curious to see if it would return.
And it did. Without fail. Same path. Same routine. Same time.
Same. Same. Same.
The Beach Fox is consistent because the Beach Fox understands that when you have a routine that brings you joy and what you need, nothing gets missed.
For most of the year, I live like the Beach Fox. Waking up at 4:50 a.m. to the feeling of my FitBit vibrating. Drink water and check the temperature. Look outside or step outside. Grab my coffee. Head to my Abundant Mama Space where I keep everything that is important to me like journals, creative supplies, meditation materials, etc.
Of course, at this point, my routine varies. WHAT I do for my creative soulcare practices changes daily and weekly. But HOW I get to those practices is always the same.
My afternoon and evening rituals are also set up the same. Or they are supposed to be …
This is how I ensure that I am a present, peaceful and playful woman all day long.
This kind of consistency and routine is especially important now that summer break is here for my family, I am feeling the chaos that begins once a school year ends.
As a highly sensitive and working mom — and a creative soul — I need deep silence and solitude like I need air and water.
That means, I have to be very creative and resourceful as I juggle many things.
I used to say I’m high maintenance but a longtime member of the Abundant Mama Peace Circle recently pointed out to me that I have strong boundaries and know what I need. Amen to that reframe!
I have to tend to myself right now more than ever by going deeper in the 4 pillars of being an Abundant Mama. (And for those experiencing Winter Solstice today … winter also adds new layers of challenges in motherhood so AMP it UP the same!)
I know that I’ll be just fine this summer. I am super organized. I know how to create space for peace in my life. I’ve been doing this creative soulcare work for years.
For me, consistency is mandatory. Routines are essential. Rituals are sacred.
Without order, my life would fall apart … which would likely send me straight to the Land of Bitter and Sour.
Like the quote at the top of this email, I want more flow of doing and being rather than extreme highs and lows.
In other words, I need to always remember to be the beach fox.
And when that is not possible — and that will be the case — I need to remember to be bendy like an Abundant Mama.
What about you? Do you crave consistency and routine? Do you want to be like the Beach Fox? And, if not, how do you ensure all of your needs and desires will be met — and how do you also meet the needs of those around you?
P.S. YOU + ME = POWERFUL RESULTS! I’d love to work with you personally on your goals of being a more peaceful, playful and present woman in your life. I have a couple spaces for coaching sessions right now. We could begin working together next week. All coaching sessions take place on the phone OR in a virtual meeting room — whatever feels most comfy for you. Learn more here.