This is a guest post written by one of our longtime Abundant Mamas in my group coaching program The Peace Circle. April is a homeschooling mom and is offering her insight on how to BE an Abundant Mama while homeschooling.
When my children attended preschool, I could reliably count on having several hours per week to myself.
Sure, a portion of that time was typically reserved for errands or laundry or something similar, but the rest was mine … to journal, to go for a walk, to grab coffee- anything that I knew would fill my cup so I’d be energized and ready for the rest of the day.
However, as a homeschooling mama with a partner who works outside the home (and often, long hours as well), alone time is no longer something I can rely on.
While homeschooling can be incredibly beautiful and rewarding, it can also be quite challenging. As homeschooling mothers, we can feel pulled in a million directions, constantly going, and at times, filled with self doubt.
In order to give our children the best childhood possible, and give ourselves the best life possible, we need to take steps to ensure we are taking care of ourselves. Plus, Mama, you deserve to be taken care of too.
But how?? There are only so many hours in the day, and we spend them all in the company of our children (or at least with them nearby). I think a valuable first step is to realize all of the opportunities that are available to you throughout the day.
By awaking before your children, that quiet bit of “me time” can help you to feel awake, energized, centered, and ready to greet the day as it unfolds. I have found that even with a teething baby, if I am able to wake up just a short time before my kids, I feel so much more mentally and emotionally prepared for the day.
As you sit with your morning coffee or tea, grab a notebook and jot down everything you can think of that brings you energy and/or joy.
Then as you move about your day(s), when you notice a situation or activity that feels joyful or replenishing, add it to what we call your Abundant Mama Energy List. Need help with ideas on what to add to your list? Sign up for Home Study program now.
Post it somewhere where you will see it often, and refer to it throughout the day, especially when you need a pick-me-up.
Some actions from my own list include: turn on music (bonus points for dancing!), flow through a sun salutation, step outside (breathe the fresh air, take in the bright blue sky), snuggle with the kids and read a story, bake, make a cup of tea or coffee.
There are no right or wrong answers — it will be your list and your own way of adding lovely bits of self care into your day. The important thing is that after completing one of the items from your list (either alone or with your children), you feel better- more energized, mood lifted, grounded.
I don’t know about you, but so often, by the time my kids go to bed, all I want to do is sink into the couch and veg out with Netflix or on my phone.
This, in and of itself, is not necessarily a bad thing. There have been times when my husband and I have been into a new show, and it becomes a series of date nights, which can be fun and a way to connect with your partner. But, if you find yourself mindlessly numbing out to a screen, feeling more drained than replenished, it’s time to find a new routine.
Perhaps it’s taking a bath or shower, or sitting with a cup of chamomile and a lit candle. Maybe it’s yoga or an evening stroll through your neighborhood. And, while you’re at it, think back through your day.
- What went well?
- How did you make your children smile?
- What did you do that totally rocked?
- How did you shine?
- Write it down, light a candle, give yourself a gold star- YOU DID IT!
And if you’re not accustomed to thinking about yourself or your day in this way, that’s ok, but do try. You work so hard and do so much; you deserve to be celebrated, dear mama. You truly do.
You. Are. Amazing.
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