You sneak out of your bedroom, maybe even in the dark.
Tiptoe to the coffee pot or the tea kettle.
Quietly and discreetly get the water flowing and the brewing started.
You sneak open the drawer, grab the spoon, grab your mug of choice and settle in for that first soothing taste of waking up.
And you start to remember what it feels like to be relaxed. And you are teased with feeling nourished for a minute. You start to think about all the things you can do and how you can be productive while also replenishing yourself.
Then it happens.
Pitter-Pat of little footsteps. Rustling sounds of pajamas rubbing against each other. Rattles of the much-loved bears and blankets. Questions. Demands. And the “Can I’s?” start up …
This is mornings in motherhood.
Uncertain yet blissful. Hopeful yet disappointing. Nourishing when it’s not aggravating.
More than 15,000 moms around the world have gone through my FREE Rise & Shine challenge. Rise & Shine is a 7-Day Challenge to Get More Sleep, Rise Early and Take Care of Yourself Before the World Wakes.
Or at least before YOUR world wakes.
The Art of Perfect Mornings with Children takes work.
And the Art of Perfect Mornings means you are getting up early to take care of YOU before you begin taking care of THEM.
Just like creating a masterpiece. Just like writing a novel. You have to put in long hours of experimentation, trial and error and releasing a whole lot of expectations. It requires rough drafts. Editing and tweaking.
And when you’re there … when you’ve finally accomplished it, you feel amazing — yes, even when the little ones wake up early, too.
Some thoughts have already come up about this sample Abundant Mama Project program. Many know the value of rising early but they can’t help think about the challenges.
But here’s what I know for sure.
We are so busy during the day that it’s really hard to fit it all in. But if you are someone who wants to fit it all in then you have to be willing to put in the hard work and Rise & Shine early.
And sometimes the hard work is dealing with children who rise early with you.
And sometimes the hard work is just devoting yourself to waking up at 4 a.m.
And sometimes the hard work is saying today I am going to just release the expectations I have for nourishing myself and I’m going to just sleep.
Still, you have questions. I know. You’ve emailed them to me.
Can I wake early even if my walls are paper thin?
Paper thin walls and all, children do eventually get used to the fact that you get up early. They will not get used to it if you aren’t consistent with it. So, if you get up early for the first time in a month and they wake up, too, your tendency will be to give up. Do not.
I’ll be on vacation. I should probably not do this challenge then, right?
Once you are an early riser convert you will realize that even on vacation with children that time alone is essential and needed. Vacation, in fact, is the best time to rise early — unless you need a break from that, of course.
I’m afraid my alarm will wake the kids.
Your fear is what is waking your kids. Put your phone on vibrate and stick it next to you. Eventually, you will not need an alarm.
I’m rising but not shining because my children are awake, too.
Shining has to do with YOUR attitude and your expectations. But there are some creative ways to keep your children living an abundant life while they are awake early, too. And I’m not talking about TV. I’ll show you some tricks I use when my children shuffle out of bed early.
I’m not going to lead you on here.
There will be mornings when you want to do X, Y and Z and you cannot. Children get sick. Partners have to leave early or out of town. Other life dramas get in the way.
But the true Abundant Mama way isn’t going to let these challenges get you down. They will just make you stronger. And more Abundant.
You can Rise & Shine, Mama.
So just hang with me for a while on this one.
Discuss: What are some of your other thoughts, challenges and worries about beginning to wake up early and start your day before the rest of your family?