We’ve all been there.
Feeling at odds with the world around us — the people around us.
Stuck with a challenging situation — maybe a crying newborn, maybe a child in a tantrum, maybe an adult in a tantrum.
We’ve all been there. Rushing around trying to get out the door or in the door or up the stairs or to the next place.
We’ve all been there. Appalled by the impatient person in line at the grocery store while rushing into school or work or your next big thing.
We’ve all been there: Mind over here, over there — when really it should be right here, right in this moment.
Peace begins with me.
Peace comes from within. It’s what I teach my children. It’s what I work on each day for myself. It’s what I guide women through as a family wellness coach.
Imagine what the world would be like if we all took a few minutes each day to decide to choose peace rather than war, hate, anger, distrust, control, being right over being kind.
Peace isn’t a destination.
It’s the way. It’s the journey.
We won’t suddenly have some epiphany that keeps us at peace forevermore. We have to find what gives us peace in our own hearts and use those tools each day.
We can choose peace in our own ways, every single moment of every single day to be at peace, even in the chaos.
So, just how do we do this, how do we find peace?
How do we find it among the chaos in our country? In our hearts? In our homes?
How do we find it among the noise in the car? How do we find it in the piles of laundry and trash and dishes?
It’s entirely up to you.
I don’t have the answers for you to be at peace. But I can guide you through what has worked for me.
Here are Peaceful Steps to Take Each Day:
PRACTICE GRATITUDE: Saying thanks for the teachable moments, thanks for the hard times, thanks for the learning curves, thanks for the blows and blunders is just one way to find peace in your daily life. Rather than dwell, say thanks. Thank you for this moment. I do not know what it means just yet but I know it will turn out just fine.
LOWER EXPECTATIONS: Yeah. I know. It isn’t how you thought it should be. It didn’t turn out right. Things will be all messed up. I know. I get it. Now get over it and find peace.
LOVE HARDER: Forget the tough love. Love yourself. Love your partner. Love your imperfect child. Being kind is so much more peaceful than being right. The days I choose kindness are the days I feel most at peace … and then, oddly, peace falls into place, naturally.
MAKE TIME FOR SOLITUDE: I am a person who needs, needs, needs quiet. It’s why I choose to not watch television. It’s why I decline a lot of social events. I need it like I need water and food and sleep. It’s that essential. Once I figured that out, I became more peaceful in the rest of my life.
ENERGIZE YOURSELF: Yup, bringing back the trusty energy list again. It works like a charm. That’s all I can say. Write one. Keep it close. Guard it with your life. Follow it to a T.
WALK AWAY: When things get tough, walk away — from your child, from your partner, from the computer or the news. When things get loud, walk away. When things get frustrating, walk away. If you can go outside, all the better. Everything is always better outside after a good dose of fresh air.
LET GO: Stop caring so much. Don’t stop caring … just stop caring to the point of overwhelm and anger. Stop trying to gain control of every thing around you. Simply let things go. There you will find peace of the most amazing kind.
BREATHE: Before you do anything — speak, make a decision, share something on Facebook, criticize someone or punish someone — stop and breathe. This is hard to do and I wish I had a 100 percent track record in doing this myself — but 90 percent of the time I do this and it’s the most effective way to be a peaceful human being.
What peace tools can you offer here today? What do you need to do or have to do to stay peaceful inside? Please share.