It’s that time of the year when we all feel scattered and overwhelmed.
The busy life begins to take over.
And we have this longing to simplify, pull back the layers and just be in this world more – but we can’t seem to figure out how.
Every month, I host a beautiful online Abundant Life Planning Session for members of The Wake Up & Thrive Network. These planning calls are a highlight of the month, allowing us to gather and plan out a juicy, restful month so we feel productive AND peaceful. We leave these calls feeling clear and motivated.
In our latest planning session as we turn our focused this month on Redefining Rest, I gave my annual reminder that we are in a season change and a season change means we may feel more anxious and overwhelmed than usual. Add to that world events that are adding fear and worry into the mix. No wonder life feels like a lot right now.
Understanding this as a season and not forever is so important.
This is one of the many seasons of motherhood that just come and go. Ebb and flow. Busy … unbusy.
The only way I know to tackle this kind of life overwhelm is by taking action. Baby steps … giant steps … any steps at all.
It’s not that we don’t have enough time, its that we’ve forgotten about what balance can feel like and we need to recalibrate and find our center.
We must first decide to stop saying I’m busy and start taking ownership of how we choose to spend our time.
Rather than saying I’m so busy, we can say, “I choose to let my children enjoy after-school activities because it enriches their life.”
Instead of saying I’m so busy, we can say, “I choose to take time to spend with my friends and in community because friendships are important to me.”
When we really are busy instead of saying, “I’m so busy,” we can say, “I choose to spend my day doing ______?” And fill in all those important things you are doing.
Anxiety and overwhelm happen when we aren’t paying close attention to what matters — when we’re not in touch with our values and living them fully.
In fact, overwhelm happens a lot when we’re basing our to-do list on shoulds rather than wants.
Here’s a Simple Strategy to Reduce Overwhelm
1. Do a quick scan of all your to-dos in one sitting – write down what needs to be done, what you want to do and what you hope to do this upcoming month. You can even add the “should dos” on your list if you are willing.
2. Prioritize your list by what needs to be done right now, later and sometime soon.
3. Read over your list before you meditate, do yoga, walk, etc. (relaxing things). Do lots of deep breathing — focusing on long exhales to bring your stress level down.
4. Return and read your list and eliminate half your list.
5. Celebrate what you DO get done.
Helping you reduce overwhelm is important in my role as a life design coach for women. I am constantly refining how to tackle all the things while still staying true to myself, my values and being present at home and in my life.