The more I work with women on their energy, their self-care and their time management, the more shocked I am at how far too many women are living in a place of total survival mode, cobbling together a do-it-yourself approach to self-care without fully knowing themselves or what they need.
Because motherhood leaves us in a severe brain fog that clouds over our perspective.
When you are operating in survival mode, your energy level and mood will be GREATLY affected by what is happening around you and to you.
It means you are reacting and responding to the world rather than being in control and influencing YOUR world.
I used to experience the extreme highs and lows, too, as evidenced by my Facebook Memories from 2008 and 2009 — the years leading up to when I began using the soulcare and family wellness practices that I coach women with here in The Abundant Mama Project.
Those mama funks are often the trigger that send us into the Land of Bitter and Sour.
When I asked the women in The Abundant Mama Peace Circle, my group coaching community, to share how they feel when they are in a mama funk here’s what they said they feel like:
- Overly tired
- Indecisive/Lack of focus
- Negative Mindset
It’s important to note that these were the words they said over and over — and they all agreed on them.
Is it Depression or Just A Mama Funk?
I get asked a lot about mama funks and if they are normal. Or not.
Many mamas feel like they need to feel awesome every single day forever and ever because society’s been kind of making us feel that way.
The thing is, though, a feeling of down and out is absolutely normal. How long the funk lasts, though, is where you need to focus and pay attention.
An average mama funk should last just a few days — and no more than a week or so — and should only occur a few times a year or once a season. And yes — it is normal to feel down at times. Very normal. We’re only human.
IMPORTANT — If you’re feeling these symptoms of a mama funk long beyond two weeks, it’s time to call a professional and get some help for yourself. You deserve to feel good. You deserve to get the help you need. You don’t have to just keep slugging your way through. Reach out. Get the help you need. You might just need some counseling. Or a friend to take you out for some fresh air and good conversation. But call someone.
BUT if you find yourself in a short-lived mama funk frequently — such as once a month or more — you might be in what I call the Land of Bitter and Sour and should check out the Abundant Mama Project reTREAT series to help you find abundance in your everyday life going forward. AMP is the remedy for the mama funk – and the Land of Bitter and Sour.