“Your beliefs become your thoughts,― Gandhi
Your thoughts become your words,
Your words become your actions,
Your actions become your habits,
Your habits become your values,
Your values become your destiny.”
At the end of the day, I ask myself … How did I make a difference today?
How I answer that question tells me how I spent my time.
I believe that women must live a life that makes an impact.
Living out loud and into my values is a top priority for me and is for my life design coaching clients.
And this week, my clients are hurting and our conversations have been about how do we speak up and stand up during a time of unrest?
The answer, of course, is to do it anyway — even if it feels hard.
I support Black Lives Matter.
I absolutely hope you do, too.
But how does this relate to motherhood and YOU being YOU, which is our mission around here?
Supporting a cause like Black Lives Matter has everything to do with motherhood — and with you showing up fully authentic to who you want to be in this world.
Motherhood is political.
- The education path you pursue for your children is made up of people who are political.
- The health care system you use to care of your children is made up of people who are political and who have political views to set policy.
- The sidewalks you walk or drive a stroller across are maintained by political systems.
- The banks you use to put your money are regulated by a political system.
Everything we touch comes back to politics.
And so living your values is political, too.
I believe that in order for you to BE YOU, FINALLY™ — and I know you want that for yourself — you have to be willing to speak up and use your voice for good.
Right now there is a statement to be made.
How to Be an Anti-Racist Parent Starting Right Now
You are either trying to dismantle 400 years of oppression or you are not.
There is no in between.
To fight oppression of Black people you must identify as an anti-racist parent.
But first … you must do the work on yourself.
Let’s be real here. This is as much OUR work as parents as it is for us to teach our children.
You have to be sure that you aren’t contributing to the white supremacy culture.
You have to be sure that you aren’t carrying unconscious bias into your everyday life.
Here are just a few ways you can begin to Be an Anti-Racist Parent Starting Right Now
My recommendation to all of my clients right now is to dedicate 15 minutes every day to doing ONE thing differently to shift the power away from the dominating white supremacy culture.
What is white supremacy culture?
”White supremacy culture is the idea (ideology) that white people and the ideas, thoughts, beliefs, and actions of white people are superior to People of Color and their ideas, thoughts, beliefs, and actions,” according to Dismantling Racism website.
So, what can you do to shift that mindset?
- Learn about White Supremacy Culture
- Share Quotes and Writings by Black writers
- Hire Black-Owned businesses for home repair jobs
- Read Black authors
- Research Black artists to hang on your walls
- Shop at Black-Owned stores — including these book shops!
- Celebrate Black Inventors and inventions
- Talk about Black History
Here are several rich resources filled with ideas, books, videos and more to help you be an Anti-Racist Parent:
Choosing to raise your children to become anti-racists may be the boldest act of parenting you can do. And if that reflects your values it should be an easy choice to make.