One of my twin daughters, loves to say no.
No matter how fun we think something will be, she will almost always say no. She doesn’t want to go. She doesn’t want to participate.
Part of her issue is that she is an introvert and has some social anxiety so going new places is a challenge for her.
She rarely ever doesn’t actually go … she just gives us a really good bit of resistance.
Once she goes, she always has a ton of fun and never regrets it. All of these adventures open her mind up to new things and she realizes that she is safe and secure even when she’s out of her comfort zone.
Funny. That’s exactly how I feel about saying yes to something new and scary or something that I don’t want to do.
That is the same thing that happens with my other daughter who is known for having really big, highly involved ideas that take a lot of time and resources. It’s easy for me to want to say no to her ideas. But when I do, I’m leaning into that area of YES that feels so good.
And it brings such a beautiful smile to her face as well.
Saying no works that way. It limits us. It keeps us small.
This month inside my group coaching program, we’re focused on this idea of saying yes to ourselves. It’s not easy. In fact, it’s definitely hard.
Saying yes isn’t always our first choice but when we learn how to do it and do it well, it can be a life changer.
This week on the latest episode of The Abundant Mama Show I’m talking about how saying yes is the first step in mothering from a place of abundance rather than scarcity.
You may find that you do that to yourself as well — or to your child. Saying no. Living in that place of control, small and restricted. I’ve been there. I know that place. That is where scarcity lives.
This idea that we have to control our world is one that is passed down to us.
But the real reason to say yes — to ourselves and to our kiddos — is the connections it brings.
Yes is a gift that when we stay open to it, memories are made and cherished.
And even better … it can be the self-care we really are looking for to change our lives.
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