Did you know that your brain is wired to have a negative bias?
We all have that same slant toward seeing the negative. It’s meant to protect us, you know, when we’re out hunting and gathering for our food to put on the rock table we all gather around.
We’ve come a long way as a civilized people. 🙂
Now that same wiring of our brains means that we spend time fixating on mistakes — ours and other people’s.
And, that negative bias is what can keep you stuck in the Land of Bitter and Sour, which is my fancy way of saying really angry and resentful.
In my work as a life design and enoughness coach, I have had the honor to know the intricacies of the lives of so many women over the years who have shared their burdens with me. And by sharing their burdens and unleashing what has been holding them down, they have been able to rise up and shine. Just this week one reached out to me and said she’s ready to become a coach herself.
But, to get to that place of true shining, you must, must, must do the work of healing these inner wounds that are holding you back from shining in your life, which is what we do inside my programs and in my private coaching.
It doesn’t matter what path you take. What matters is that you start addressing the issues one at a time for healing and transformation.
When I use the phrase Land of Bitter and Sour … women who are in it, KNOW. They KNOW what I am speaking of because the Land of BS is not fun, it’s not enjoyable, it’s not loving, it’s not nourishing.
It’s bitter like a bowl full of lemons.
It’s VERY hard to shine when you are stuck in the Land of BS.
But here’s the thing. Most of the time we tell ourselves the same stories over and over and over that lead to that very place of resentment.
I’ve been coaching women for years in figuring out how to get the root cause of their resentment and anger and sadness … with a simple method of figuring out just that.
How do you do that? Simple. Just ask yourself these questions:
- I don’t have enough ______.
- I don’t do enough ________.
- I am not good enough at ________.
- My family never has ________.
Your answers to those questions above will lead you to what I call your Abundant Mama Sticking Points.
These are the REASONS you can’t seem to tap into self-love, abundance, gratitude and all that good stuff you want in your life.
When I catch myself in a new sticking point — or a new one — I am reminded of this core exercise that I have been doing with women for nearly a decade. Take a moment to choose a sticking point that leaves you feeling resentful, angry or upset — or stuck in a the Land of Bitter and Sour.
Any feeling of not enough _________ is almost always a sticking point that you need to overcome in order to live and lead from a place of abundance and enoughness.
Last week, I talked in my Friday Flourishing email about choosing to take the right action.
Well, this week I’m suggesting you choose right path forward and Just choose ONE sticking point to focus this week.
Then it’s time for you to begin to change the story. Get out a piece of paper (or journal) and ask yourself the following: What would my life FEEL like if this sticking point no longer had control over my thoughts?
NEED HELP HEALING THIS STICKING POINT? Imagine you and I getting on the phone each week or every two weeks to help you rise above these sticking points and take the right actions so you can shine in your life. Dear one … That’s exactly what happens when you sign up for 1:1 private coaching with me. You. Me. Private coaching that is personalized for YOU and your circumstances. Because let’s face it — we don’t get these sticking points randomly. They are made over a lifetime and tackling them may take some work on your part. If that is true for you, and if you think you’d love to work with me, sign up for a FREE discovery call here.