Very few modern mothers see their role as “just a mother” these days.
In fact, even if you’re a full-time mother, there is a strong chance you have a lot of other things that interest you and that you’d love to try someday.
Many of my private coaching clients come to me with a strong sense of isn’t there more for me?
Well, it’s hard to imagine MORE unfolding in our lives if we are so overwhelmed with our lives as they are right now.
If you have felt like your life is filled with an endless amount of distractions, clutter, chaos and conflict, it’s possible that getting your life in order will CREATE SPACE for you to add in more of what you love and what fills you up.
Motherhood is can feel really, really consuming — as if it takes all of our physical, emotional and mental energy most for the day.
But it doesn’t have to be that way.
I’ve been working with hundreds of busy moms around the world for years and what they all want a little bit of doing and being in their lives.
Yes. Me, too.
I analyzed all of my best Abundant Mama client stories and watched what was working for them — and myself.
All of my coaching and courses are rooted in these 10 Habits — which aren’t like most parenting habits you’ll find.
Listen, my dear. You need to be strategic with your time and energy.
What does it mean to be a highly effective mom?
- Does it mean to be productive or does it mean to feel good in what you do?
- Does it mean to be in control or does it mean to feel understood and connected?
- Does it mean to be a successful role model or does it mean to be a good teacher?
By definition, in all actuality, effective simply means producing a result that is wanted.
In other words, getting what we want means we’re being effective.
And all of my readers in this community and my clients in my foundational eCourse want many of the same things:
To find their happy place as mothers.
To embrace ease in their days.
To dance with a gentle flow through routines and systems that feel good.
It’s not always easy, but when we say yes to just the right habits and no to the ones that aren’t serving us well then we are putting the words Highly Effective right behind our names.
I have worked tirelessly with many mothers around the world for the last three years and I can see a common storyline unfolding for the moms who are thriving and finding this work getting easier and easier each day.
When I look at my most successful clients over the years, they have adopted most of these 10 habits and mastered them.
Here are the 10 Habits of Highly Effective Mamas:
1. Take Sleep Seriously
Create amazing boundaries around your sleep and stick to it. This is the most amazing way to be awesome tomorrow.
2. Get Up Early
You don’t have to get up extremely early, or even early at all. You don’t have to even love mornings. But you do have to get up with intention and with purpose that makes you not only feel good but to start the day off with a smile.
3. Do nothing often
We’re so busy being productive we forget that doing nothing really does count as self-care and being effective. So work nothing into your day over and over.
4. Be Flexible
I have never met a parenting or life challenge that isn’t cured by a little flexibility. On both ends, for sure, but on our ends as mothers absolutely.
5. Dedicate connection time
You don’t have to be “on” all day long to be an effective mother. But, you will feel effective if you stay on for a dedicated amount of time each day. And do this with everyone you love, too.
6. Zoom Out
We get so hung up on the small details of parenting we forget that the small stuff is really just small stuff. Asking ourselves if this will matter next week, next month or next year is a great way to effectively disengage from the stuff that just isn’t that important to stress over.
7. Be Kind over Being Right
When we have a chance to be kind or be right, choosing kindness almost never goes wrong. The right part can always come later in a real conversation when emotions are settled … or not at all. But embracing kindness always feels good. It always feels good.
8. Always Have a Plan
As much as we want to be in the moment and living fully, we also know that structure and plans are meant to help not hinder our ability to stay present because they actually help us stay on track by being less distracted by many other things.
9. Focus on needs over actions
When we see our children act out with bad behavior, it’s natural to want to correct their actions. But, when we can stop to see what their actions mean we start to understand each other better and get to the root of the problem more quickly. Asking yourself what you need or asking yourself what your child needs is an effortless way to curb hurtful behaviors more quickly.
10. Learn the Value of Letting Go
One of my absolute favorite ways to walk in this world with more ease and flow is to learn to quickly let go (detach, disengage) of things, ideas and people that cause us extreme stress and feelings of negativity. We devote several lessons to this concept in The Abundant Mama Reset eCourse because it is is SO entirely hard to do. And yet when we master it we find ourselves living a much more effective daily life. Let Go now.