I’m almost sad to write it, but I was that student who slinked down in her seat, afraid the teacher might call on me. I was the kid that never raised her hand. I was the kid that was so insecure that I thought when I had a question, I was a bad person, a dumb kid, a stupid girl.
I thought not knowing was a really, really bad thing. And, even when I knew the answer, I often doubted myself and never tried to give the answer.
I’m not sure how that happened.
And the end of this story is kind of comical, really. By the time I graduated high school, all I wanted to do was ask questions — as a journalist. Then I became a journalist. I did that for more than a decade — learning a valuable lesson in life.
We must question. We must seek. We must explore. We must critique. It is not enough to just be fed answers. It is not enough to assume what we are told is correct.
Besides teaching our girls to be the kindest human beings possible, I want them to be questioners, seekers and explorers.
I never want them to feel shame for not knowing an answer.
So when I read about creating an “I Wonder” board in the book, “The Rhythm of the Family,” by Amanda Soule, I pretty much immediately made one for our family. The thing about parents and kids’ questions is that we don’t always have the answers and, therefore, we tend to brush their questions aside, making light of them. And yet they are so essential to staying awake and being mindful of what our children need from us at any given moment. This board takes those questions and highlights them as being so important. To me, this board says, “I care about what is important to you right now. While I do not have the answer, I value that you are curious.”
Now, I’m creative — witty, even — but I am not crafy. That’s why this blog doesn’t take the avenue of many others in terms of crafts to do with kids. We do them, but they are not my area of expertise. This blog will never have many projects that use a glue gun or sewing machine. This blog will always have projects that use your mind, your imagination and your heart. But, sometimes, crafts are necessary. At least the easy ones.
To make your own “I wonder” board simply take a bulletin board, cover it with fabric like this. Attach a few ribbons, if you wish, and then start adding questions. That may even be more than you need, really. You could do this a million ways — such as an I Wonder jar, or an I wonder journal. Whatever you need to do to make it easy and achievable for the whole family. We keep our board in our dining room/art room combo next to our hot chocolate bar for convenience.
This project was easy and I cannot stress enough how awesome our I Wonder board has been in our lives as a family. At various times in our day, the girls — or I — end up asking a question. A question that we really are curious about or a question that is just silly or a question that is plain old something we should know but do not!
All questions that anyone has goes on the board no matter how ridiculous. All. I’ve even wondered why our noses run so much when it’s cold outside …
Questioning what happens around us is essential. It is remarkable how often we don’t double check or question or doubt how things are, how things have always been and whether what we’ve been led to believe is even true.
Seek. Explore. Question. These are the things we value in our family.
These are the things our Wonder board promotes.
Now that the questions are adding up, we’ll be finding time to research some of them. Others, we’ll just relish in the unknown.
Because we don’t always have the answers in life, do we? And that is perfectly, wildly, most amazingly wonderful. Isn’t it??