Why Are We So Busy, Anyway?

Why Are We So Busy, Anyway?

I am the least busy person I know.

It’s true.

My calendar has a lot of blank space. My kids aren’t in any extra activities at the moment. We rarely have more than one social event a weekend.

And, we really prefer it that way.

Simple and slow is best for me and my creative brain that often runs a marathon of thoughts in a single hour. And, it seems to be best for our daughters who more often than not these days are opting to stay home and built a fort in the backyard.

But this isn’t true for many families. So many moms I talk to on a regular basis say they just do not know how to slow down. They are so busy. They just can’t keep up. It doesn’t matter if you work or not, the workload of caring for children and a house and a life is immense.

Add to all of that that we are also trying to be present, mindful moms, too. We’re trying to be those moms who offer the right balance of healthy foods and playful experiences and teachable moments …

Add it all together and it’s enough to make you want to crash on the couch with a basket of laundry tossed over your head.

Why are we so busy, anyway?

First of all, we’re so focused on “what needs to be done today?” that we rush right through our beautiful, ordinary routines without thought.

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We’re attached to what we going to do — and how we will share that with the world — that we forget what it feels like to just simply live a life undocumented, unshared and unrecorded. 

We’re afraid to be alone with quiet and boredom for fear that our true vulnerability will shine through — proving we’re not perfect and we can’t do it all and we haven’t a clue what we’re doing at all.

And all of this, of course, has a price to pay.

Our health. Our marriages. Our family dynamics.

Our children are over-scheduled, rushed and torn between the right thing and the thing that feels right.

And then … we find ourselves smack dab in the middle of the Land of Bitter and Sour — filled with anger and resentment.

We snap more at each other. We have less patience because we’re in such a rush. We start forgetting things and losing things.

When is enough enough?

I’ll tell you when.

Right now.

Peaceful family lives are possible and you don’t have to give up every single thing on your to-do list, either.

Let’s begin right now with living more intentionally. With a clear mission and purpose, we’ll stop getting caught up in the next big thing and just focus on what matters most.

The answer doesn’t lie in the face of the clock or eking out more hours in our day to fit MORE in but deliberately choosing a different way of living and intentionally taking charge of how you spend your hours.

3 Responses to Why Are We So Busy, Anyway?

  1. Hello, I just found your site through Gems of Delight and I am so happy. I am also the least busy person mama of toddlers that I know. We have a slow and semi-identical routine everyday that gives my kids peace and allows for lots of space when we need it. One thing that is never discussed about slowing down is the little guilt that creeps in about not getting “stuff” done. Although my husband is simply graceful about a dirty floor or a kitchen full of dishes when I have been home all day I assume that all husbands/partners aren’t. Often the choice to join the kids in the backyard and push them in the swing is met with “What will my husband think I have been doing all day?” or “I should at least be able to pull these few things together”. In actuality, there has to be a balance. I would love to hear your thoughts on this and on the guilt lie of unproductivity. Thank you for being a light in this world.


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