Ban Busy: 10 Benefits of Slowing Your Family Way Down

Ban Busy: 10 Benefits of Slowing Your Family Way Down

There was a time when I was not only a doer, I was a proud doer.

I was a proud multi-tasker. I was a proud busy person.

But suddenly the busy life felt like it was consuming my every breath.

I couldn’t breathe another minute of chaos and busyness.

I felt like I was climbing a never-ending wall that really, truly wasn’t leading me anywhere.

I had to let it go.

For me, the reasons were so clear.

But, maybe it’s not as clear for you or for someone who really enjoys “doing.”

Why should we Ban Busy?

Do we even need to Ban Busy?

What would a slower life mean?

Well, I wrote a book about this very topic because we may always have a full, busy life but there are many things we can do to embrace it and love the chaos and actually FEEL like we live a slower life.

But what I can tell you is that slowing down helped me create a much more abundant life.

And by abundant I mean both the Abundant Mama values talk so much about around here — peaceful, playful and present — as well as actual abundance, a feeling of being satisfied and content with what is.


So, here are 10 Reasons to Ban Busy from Your Family Life.

You’ll Carry Less Guilt

I’m not a big fan of guilt but I can honestly say that when I make a conscious effort to slow down and ban busy from my day, I have more time for the good stuff. So, while I’m never going to be completely guilt-free (it’s not my nature) I have way less guilt because I know I am spending my time and hours in the best way I can at the moment. Listen to a Podcast Episode on Slow Mothering.

You’ll Yell Less

There is a reason we often find ourselves yelling while trying to get the kids out the door — to anywhere — and that reason is called rushing. So, when we slow down and make time our friend, we are automatically going to yell less because there’s going to be less pressure to get to so many places and for so many reasons.

You’ll Actually Save Money

Not only do you save money when you live a slower life, you start to realize how much you do have in your life already. Abundance isn’t just about making money and saving money but about feeling good about how you spend your money. And, abundance is also about being content with what you have and where you are in life.

You’ll Find Meaningful Friendships

If you want real friends, slow down and they will slow down with you. The busy friends — the ones rushing off to do this or that to keep up with the hipsters — aren’t looking back. Neither should you. Make real connections your end-goal.

You’ll Feel Less Distracted

So many moms complain they can’t focus on one task and stay in the moment without their mind wandering. Of course not. Being busy is hard work for your mind and your body. Slowing down changes that because there is just less to worry about. It will still be hard but it will be more possible. Distractions really are the cornerstone of busyness. Read this Blog Post on Slow Mothering.

You’ll Be More Creative

If you want to start a business, leave your job, write a book or take on any other creative endeavor, slowing down is the only way to make your dreams come true. It’s in the spaces of downtime that I have found the best ideas, the ones worth doing. And without those spaces in my life I would never write another blog post again.

You’ll Discover Peaceful Rhythms

If you want a peaceful family, rushing and yelling is really not going to get you there. Slowing down, however, gives you all more time to fill your days with the things you love. And, in those blank spaces on your calendar is opportunity to connect, engage and be active together.

You’ll Have Less Errands

When there is just so much to do of course it’s never going to get done. Intentionally slowing down doesn’t mean not buying groceries, but it definitely decreases all those unnecessary things on your list that you may normally run around town for every single day or week.

You’ll Be Happier

“I hate laying in the grass on a blanket staring up at the clouds on a sunny day,” said no one ever. More space in your day means a happier you. And if more space in YOUR day means a happier you, imagine what more space in your children’s day would mean.

You’ll Be Closer to Finding Balance

One of the most challenging part of motherhood is never feeling like we have found the right balance between productivity, dreams and caring for our children the way we want to care for them. Slowing down, however, and having less expectations on keeping up with everyone else is actually the only way to achieve balance. Balance is just a myth we have in our heads that maybe, sometimes, we are lucky to feel. But when all of the major distractions are taken away, it’s easier to feel that balance more often.


DISCUSS: What do you think is the best reason to ban busy?

9 Responses to Ban Busy: 10 Benefits of Slowing Your Family Way Down

  1. Thank you for this. You always have a wonderful way of breaking down the whys. I just love your writing.

    The best reason for me to ban busy is to build more memories and deeper richer life with my family. After working full time for some of the most precious years of my children’s lives, I realized I didn’t remember them at certain ages. I get teary every time I think of what I missed.

    So now, I am doing all I can to live in the present. To soak up the ‘everydays’ so that I can remember little parts of them (and me) during this fast and slow part of life.

    Thanks again.

  2. Love your post. A few years ago I had this conversation with my husband, everyone is soooo busy, busy doing what? I hate the word even. It’s like there’s a competition on who can be the busiest.

  3. My biggest reason is for my children. I don’t want them remembering me being too busy for them. It’s really hard some days to slow down… It’s an ongoing battle. Some days I lose and some days I win. The winning days are the most rewarding, that’s why I keep working at it.

  4. This is wonderful! Thanks for sharing. Listening, just really listening to my inner voice helps guide me on a daily basis. Sometimes it’s muffled by the daily grind, but I aim to wake up early to calm myself and set my day off right.

    You sound like a really great mama. My driving force came from my mine, who always said: “I gave you roots to guide you and wings so you can fly.” I’ve built my life around that motto. My aim is to pass on to my daughters what my family secured in me.

    I want us to slow down, grow roots, and build a solid foundation. I also want to strengthen our wings and soar.

    It’s a balance between holding on and letting go, between planning and being.

    I’m not sure what balance means, but I do know that I feel most balanced when I slow down and am present. My mission is to build a mindful, loving, healthy, and fun life – with roots and wings.

    But it seems to me that once you stop fearing time, once you realize that time is your friend, once you let go enough to feel that you have an abundant amount of time and energy, life plays out well.

  5. The main reason, I’m banning busy from my life is to be a happier more balanced mommy& wife! I actually suffer from.Adult ADHD but my 2 precious children & awesome husband are constantly inspiring me to be more like the woman God called me to be!! My first step towards banning busy is closing my Facebook account down .I I’ve done it before but in my mind & heart, I knew it would be temporary .This time, I’m more mature & ready to admit that not only does social media magnify my ” busyness ” but it takes so much precious time from the wonderful life I’ve been blessed! I don’t wanna wake up one day and regret the way I spent my time!

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